What is Self Respect?
With self respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
It is to have pride and knowledge of one's own worth, to value one's self. To have due respect for oneself, one's character, and one's conduct.
Respect is earned, not given.
Those with self-respect are less prone to regret, blame, guilt, shame, and secretive behavior.
It is the cornerstone on which many other attributes are built such as honesty, confidence, and integrity.
How do you learn to respect yourself?
Children learn from individuals who have a high respect for themselves. The more children are around people who feel good about themselves, the more they can emulate this important truth.
It is not about what we do but who we are. It is about feeling valued, just because we are people.
Teaching children about self respect
Children need to be taught right from the beginning that this is part of their personal armoury of positive attributes.
We can help them to do so by naming it for them.
For instance, when we see our child do a respectful act, either for himself or for another, we can highlight this for him in language by saying,
"I noticed your self respect as you took such good care of yourself today".
"You obviously have respect for yourself as you were able to say no to your friend so clearly".
"Making the right decision will confirm your self respect".
Self respect is the benchmark upon which our values and morals are shaped. It is important to teach our children to be true to themselves.